Ah, February. You short pretty month, you.
I am still coming off the motivating high of January and really making a conscious effort towards becoming my best self. In light of that beautiful sentiment, I’ve pulled together three books to help on this (grace-filled) journey. No matter where you’re at, you’re sure to benefit from the tried-and-true wisdom of these authors.
Also, I know this month is all about love-everything, which, if you’re single can make you want to stuff your face into your pillow and scream (only me?) but I’ve got an alternative method for dealing — single ladies, book #3 is just for you.
- Girl, Wash Your Face by Rachel Hollis
- You are a Badass by Jen Sincero
- Party of One by Joy Beth Smith
01 | GIRL, WASH YOUR FACE
Stop believing the lies about who you are so you can become who you were meant to be.
Rachel Hollis is about to become your new best friend. She’s a mama to four, a blogger at The Chic Site, and a huge supporter of helping women accomplish their dreams (a gal after my own heart).
Her new book Girl, Wash Your Face is centered on one simple idea: your life is up to you. Often times, despite this fact, we get so caught up in the lies we tell ourselves that we douse our potential and forfeit our happiness.
Many of the lies we believe are buried so deep in our subconscious or rooted so far back in our past that we just accept them as truth. I am unworthy of being loved. I’m not a good mom. I should be further along by now. Lies. All of ’em.
In Girl, Wash Your Face, Rachel deflates twenty self-esteem destroying lies, ones that used to leave her feeling overwhelmed, unworthy, or ready to give up. By being open and honest about her journey in overcoming them, she delivers powerful insight that will help you recalibrate your mindset.
You might find yourself tearing up, you’ll probably laugh at her anecdotes, but no matter what, you’ll walk away equipped with the understanding that only you have the power to change your life.
Get Girl, Wash Your Face here.
02 | YOU ARE A BADASS
How to stop doubting your greatness and start living an awesome life.
Chances are, you’ve already read this book. Confession: so have I. I’m revisiting it this month because it’s that good. Jen is a world-traveling success coach so You Are a Badass is filled with gems that she probably charges a million dollars for.
Our entire experience on this planet is determined by how we choose to perceive our reality. On the other side of your fear is your freedom. Procrastination is one of the most popular forms of self-sabotage because it’s really easy. Never apologize for who you are, it lets the whole world down.
Gems people, million dollar gems. I’m pretty sure everyone on the planet should read this book, we’d all be better off. In it, Jen helps you identify and change the self-sabotaging beliefs and behaviors that stop you from getting what you want. The result? Creating a life you genuinely love. Today.
She starts by helping you understand how you got this way, diving into things like our subconscious and self-perception. Then she divulges on how to embrace your inner badass by loving yourself, replacing self-defeating verbiage with affirmations, and seeing yourself out of the comparison trap.
She discusses meditation, the power of our thoughts, the importance of giving, gratitude, and faith. She walks us through forgiveness, loosening up (preach), how to move past fear, procrastination, and perfectionism.
Finally, she delves into how to get up after failure, make a dang decision already, think from a place of abundance, do more, and keep the faith, before heaving you off into your best life.
Girls. This book. You need it. Get it here.
03 | PARTY OF ONE
Truth, longing, and the subtle art of singleness.
Don’t read this book unless you’re in the mood for some serious spiritual truth in regards to being single. It says on her website that Joy Beth writes about singleness, sexuality, and other topics people try to avoid, and well, that’s exactly what she does.
As with anything that challenges the norm, it can get tense. In her book, Party of One, she discusses things like how God doesn’t promise us marriage, why singleness isn’t seasonal and marriage can’t be the greatest source of joy, why we should steward our sexuality and thoughts on navigating the pitfalls of dating in the search for a husband.
Not going to lie, many parts of this book make me uncomfortable. It dares me to think about being single as a valid life stage, even if it were to be permanent. That is not the most uplifting thought. I prefer to regard this stage of my life as temporary and fleeting, even if I don’t have the scriptural knowledge to back it up.
One thing I like about her book is how she brings a community of women into the discussion to share their challenges, fears, and dating horror stories. I find their comments relatable and interesting, and they spark a conversation that challenges conventional wisdom, which, even when I don’t agree, I can appreciate a good debate.
Overall, in a world that views singleness as a hiccup, something to endure until it passes, I think the notion that you are still a fully functioning human being with a divine purpose regardless of your marital status stands firm. This book is a good reminder, if you are single, that you are inherently worthy of a seat at the table of life, and being intentional and fulfilled starts now.
Get your copy of Party of One here.
Some of the books in this article were provided to me in exchange for my honest review. All opinions are my own. Some links included in this article may be affiliate links.