As you’ve probably figured out by now, I am all about the refining process. I believe in bettering yourself, filling your world with people that inspire you, and trying to find the lesson in the hardship.
I also believe in paying attention to the women around you who are unapologetically going after what they want in life and succeeding. Surely there are habits there we can adapt along our path to success?
Read below for 5 habits of highly successful women, as picked up from my tribe of go-getters.
01 | START YOUR MORNINGS MOTIVATED
As we know, our morning routines set the tone for the rest of the day. What I’ve noticed is that successful women start their day by moving. Sometimes that means rising early — before the kids or before work — to fit in a workout they couldn’t otherwise (shout out to Nicole Richie and my cousin Melissa).
I want to be that woman. It’s my goal in 2018 to fit in a “get moving” work-out first thing in the morning. That can mean taking a short walk, doing a yoga class, hitting the gym, going for a hike, and if I’m feeling extremely ambitious, heading to a Soul Cycle class (maybe even at the ungodly hour of 6AM… okay, maybe 7).
02 | GOALS, GOALS, GOALS
I ain’t sayin’ she a goal digger… oh, wait, yes, I am saying that actually. This is a habit I’m actually great at. Put your goals where you can see them! Not just on the vision board (though that’s a really fun, intentional project). But map them out.
Think about what you hope to accomplish in 2018 and what you need to do to get there. Then break the year into quarters and work backward. Keep your goals front and center, and don’t just hope they happen, pencil them into your week.
Whether it’s a business or personal goal doesn’t matter, just schedule your priorities instead of prioritizing your schedule. You’re in the driver’s seat here.
03 | PUT YOURSELF OUT THERE
Do you ever hear those voices in your head? Don’t bother reaching out, it’s a long shot. Honestly, you probably shouldn’t go, there’s going to be a room full of more qualified people. It’s best not to ask, you already know the answer.
Newsflash: fear is relentless, but shine some light on it and it shrinks. Here’s the truth: you don’t know unless you try. Sure, you can fail. You can be told no or worse, ignored. But here’s the great news: you can also succeed. You can win. The answer can also be yes.
You won’t know unless you try. So give yourself permission to try. Pitch your idea to someone out of your league. Ask out the guy you can’t stop thinking about. Show up, try out, be proud of yourself regardless of the outcome. There is no faster way to succeed than to try.
04 | DON’T SETTLE
Think long and hard about what you treasure. Deep down in your heart, what really matters to you? Do you want a relationship that makes you feel safe and understood? How about a marriage full of laughter and intimacy? A job that gives you freedom and flexibility?
Let your desires set the standard for what you want, and then do yourself a favor and do not compromise on them. Let them guide you. Don’t let impatience get the best of you or throw in the towel on a situation you think will never change. Wait for it. Work towards it. Don’t settle for less than what you know God’s put on your heart.
We’ve only got this one life, go after what you want. Make your story one worth telling.
05 | BE GENEROUS
Successful people — the people that are really winning at life — have generous hearts. This does not mean they are rich. It means they look for opportunities to be a blessing to others, regardless of what is in their bank accounts.
This week at church I heard one of the best sermons on generosity and finances that I’ve ever heard. Our pastor was telling us about the Macedonians who, in the midst of extreme hardship and poverty, pleaded for the privilege of giving to the poor.
Extremely poor people… pleading… for the privilege to give. The bible says they gave as much as they were able, even beyond what they could afford to give. With overflowing joy in the midst of hardship, they excelled in the grace of giving.
A generous heart does not start when we’re rich or when we’ve made it. It starts today, with what we have, exactly where we’re at. If your thoughts tend to stem from a mindset of scarcity and lack, try to reframe your thinking around the privilege of generosity and watch your world open up.
What habit has brought you the most success?